MAN-STAYCATION
As a single adult, I have lived in New York City, San Francisco and now Los Angeles. A favorite catch-phrase among singles of all towns is
“It’s too hard to meet people in New York” or “Los Angeles” or “San Francisco” (you can feel free to insert the name of the town you live in because I’m sure it’s a common phrase among singles where you live as well.)
So, let’s say you live in the barren city of New York and you go on vacation to Los Angeles, chances are, your experience will be something like “Oh my god! There are so many cute, charming men here. I wish it could be like this New York.”
And the Los Angelian, to take a break from her “great-guy-barren” life in Los Angeles goes to New York and her experience is something like ““Oh my god! There are so many cute, charming men here. I wish it could be like this Los Angeles.”
It almost seems as if all the great guys in cities and towns across America are hiding out in their man caves until you go on vacation. And as if there was a memo sent out, available, charming men are everywhere and you’ve hit the frickin’ jackpot!
But then you go back to your town, where it’s barren and you’re alone. You fantasize about the all the great men that live everywhere except where you live and you feel righteously sorry for yourself and beat yourself up for choosing a location to live in that clearly doesn’t support your desire to be partnered.
By now you are about ready for me to say it aren’t you?
It’s not your location!!!
Here is where your location could prevent you from finding a great man to have an amazing, open partnership: in a Chinese prison. I could imagine THAT would be a real challenge.
I invite you to consider that something shifts in your mind when you go on vacation. You are not thinking long term (does he have a job, what is his relationship with his mother, etc), you are having fun, you are taking risks and most importantly, you are seeking out adventure and being open to the possibilities of romance and sex that often can happen when you go on vacation. You are being self expressed and truly alive. Because of this, miraculously, you are able to see the oodles of attractive, wonderful men all around you.
Soooooo…I’m inviting you to have a man-STAYcation. That’s right! Be how you are on vacation in your real “this is where I live and bank” life. Be self expressed, be truly alive, experience where you live like you have never been there before and maybe, just maybe, you will notice men you have never noticed but have been there all along!
It’s a lot cheaper too!
