VALUE SCHMALUE
I used to say on a fairly regular basis, “Why would a man ask me out? I have absolutely nothing valuable to offer him.” This phrase got me nowhere in creating magic, love and romance in my life. NOWHERE, real fast.
I had my “real good” reasons why this was true. “I’m still an assistant.” “I don’t own a home.” “I need to lose 10 pounds!” “I own a crappy car that breaks down all the time.”
It was as if I thought I was as only good as my circumstances and I was CERTAIN, once I got my own TV show produced, bought a Mini Cooper and did Pilates for 3 months straight, then I would have some resemblance of a woman with value, a woman that had something to offer, a woman worth asking out. Anything less than that and it was “Of course no one asks me out! I’m a financial disaster!”
So while I waited around for my career to take off (it’s still waiting in queue on the runway), my bank account to grow (it hasn’t by the way) and my abs to get flatter (ha – don’t even get me started on that one!), I was alone, frustrated, confused and spinning my wheels. All the while, trying to quickly solve my career problem so I could quickly solve my relationship problem! And THEN, I could start living the life I wanted. AND, my amazing, single girlfriends were having the same issue.
But here’s the thing I realized… as women…we are automatically ridiculously valuable to men…and not just for the reason you are thinking. Yes, we provide sex and that does go a long way. But there is so much more to our being women that men so appreciate. And it isn’t even anything we have to do; it is simply what we as women have.
Here are a few:
We have ridiculously soft skin, even when we don’t use lotion all the time!
We have curves which men love to look at and caress. Even if you think you have too many curves or not enough curves, the fact is, you have curves and for a man, that is all good!
We smell good! Men love when we put on our vanilla perfumes or use our mango infused shampoos AND they love it when we come back from a brisk walk and are a little funky. They love how we smell!
Those are some of the physical attributes we have but what about inside? Well:
We are vibrant in a way men aren’t. Every woman has inside of her a light. A bubbly, fun, uniquely feminine spark that men are easily and automatically drawn too. You’ve heard the phrase “She lights up the room.” Because we do!
We effortlessly inspire men! You know how giving a gift is often better than receiving one? This is what is like for men all the time. Our natural vibrancy inspires men to want to give to us and make us happy. This in turn makes them happy and fulfilled.
We can multitask. Men love that we can do more than one thing at one time and make it seem effortless. To them, we are magical, alluring and amazing!
We are nurturing. Yes, even me, the klutz who can barely keep a plant alive, has this quality. Men look to us for this and know this is something they can only get from us, the women in their lives.
Simply be being born women, we are soft skinned, curvaceous, great smelling, vibrant, inspiring, happy, nurturing, magical, multitasking feminine beings that men want to cherish and adore. Not only are these qualities priceless to men, they are a way more valuable gift to give a man then say, me having executive producer credit!
Value schmalue 2.. Awesome
It’s topics like this one that make me sit and think – makes me think, “this can’t be true, can it?