As I have mentioned in previous blogs, I have an on again/off again relationship with my boyfriend. It’s been great, it’s been fun and he irritates the crap out of me.
He has this beautiful, British accent and for some reason, he likes to talk like a Southern American redneck. He has this gorgeous house and for some reason he likes to keep a black, pot bellied fireplace in the middle of the living room. And, here’s the worst thing, it doesn’t matter what I do, he never gets irritated or frustrated with me, EVER! Even when I am being a big bitch, it doesn’t seem to phase him.
For me, it just seemed like if someone did anything that irritated me, that meant we weren’t meant for each other. So I would either not go out on dates or I would break up with people, because I was little irritated. Because if you are meant to be with someone, isn’t it supposed to be perfect? I mean at least for the first few months?
Apparently, I was wrong. I shared my “never be irritated” belief system with my sister and she said “No, no, no, no. Someone you really like could easily start irritating you within two to three weeks.”
This was both a shock to the system and a huge relief for me!
Shocking that I wasn’t the only one experiencing irritation early on in relationships and a relief because now being irritated didn’t have to be the determining factor of whether or not I should be with someone.
So, here’s the best part for me. I told my British fellow this. That I had been acting like I couldn’t be with him because sometimes he irritates me. And then, quietly, I asked “Do I ever irritate you?” He almost fell off the couch with laughter as he shouted “Oh my god! You irritate me so much!”
He went on.
“I don’t think I’ve ever been with anyone that irritated me as much as you but I’ve also never been with anyone I’ve loved as much as you. I just say to myself, well, that’s her.”
I was totally floored….and…I have to say, intrigued. Here I thought this man had me up on this perfect pedestal where I could do no wrong, when actually, because of his love for me, he was letting things go left and right and recommitting to our relationship. What I am left with is I can have a relationship with this man, continue to share my life with him and see if we could create the kind of partnership I want as opposed to running away every time he does a Southern Accent.
Talk to ya’ll later!