Trust – re-defining the definition
Trust. A necessity for any successful romantic relationship. But here’s the thing: men and woman have different definitions of trust and too often, neither sex is aware of this fact. Let’s talk about that.
For most women, their greatest threat to trust is a man cheating on her. So she goes about building this kind of trust: “I will not cheat on you” because that is what is important to her, to not be cheated on.
But the big secret is that men, overall, are not too concerned about their women cheating on them.
Most men know that women are less likely to cheat than men (sorry guys, it’s a fact!) So you being faithful to us, doesn’t necessarily build trust, because we don’t usually worry about that as much as you do. Don’t get me wrong , I am not saying that men don’t think about their partners cheating on them. I am saying that just being faithful to your man is not the only way to build trust with him, because he’s worried about other things about the relationship more.
So how do you gain trust with your man and build a loving relationship?
First, understand that being faithful is only a part of the big picture with men. To really build trust in your man, you need to make him really feel like you support, believe, and accept him for who he is.
This is more powerful than staying faithful. I am not saying you can be unfaithful as long you make him feel like a superhero. He won’t stand for that. Just understand that it takes more than just being faithful to truly build trust with a man.
Think for second about how men bond. We build stuff together, we play on teams, and if you want to take it to extremes where male trust is powerful, think about soldiers and other dangerous careers. As a soldier, you have to trust that your fellow soldier will risk his life for you as you would for him.
Now, you don’t have to risk your life to build trust with your man, but make him feel that you would. Let him know that you have his back no matter what. Let him know that you understand he is a human being and is going to make mistakes, but you will be there for him. Don’t make him feel bad when he screws up. Offer to help and don’t criticize. This is how you build a special bond with your man.
It may seem like a woman is doing all the work, but in reality something awesome will start happening. Remember that men like challenges. When we really start to feel that bond with a female, you will see him change. He will feel inspired and challenged and will want to rise up to the occasion of being an incredible partner. I recommend that you start noticing all the great things about your man and make him feel that you believe in him. And, if you don’t believe in him, you shouldn’t be with him because he will never trust you.
I hope this helps women understand the minds of men. And don’t worry ladies, a blog about how men should love and appreciate you is on its way.
nice work Luis